Friday, 15 June 2012

'Better than a dog anyhow'

Charles Darwin considers marriage ...


Children—(if it Please God) — Constant companion, (& friend in old age) who will feel interested in one,—  object to be beloved & played with.— better than a  dog anyhow.— Home, & someone to take care of house— Charms of music & female chit-chat.— These  things good for one’s health. — but terrible loss of time. — My God, it is intolerable to think of spending ones whole life, like a neuter bee, working, working, & nothing after all.— No, no won’t do.— Imagine living all one’s day solitarily in smoky dirty London House.— Only picture to yourself a nice soft wife on a sofa with good fire, & books &  music perhaps— Compare this vision with the dingy reality of Grt. Marlbro’ St. Marry—Mary—Marry Q.E.D.


Freedom to go where one liked— choice of Society & little of it. — Conversation of clever men at clubs— Not forced to visit relatives, & to bend in every trifle.— to have the expense & anxiety of children— perhaps quarelling— Loss of time. — cannot read in the  Evenings— fatness & idleness— Anxiety & responsibility— less money for books  &c— if many children forced to gain one’s bread.— (But then it is very bad for ones health to work  too much) Perhaps my wife wont like London; then the sentence is banishment & degradation into indolent, idle fool—

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  1. It's the killer. Do not die.

  2. It was a genuine bee hive of activity through out the room, as the children went and selected their favorite fine motor fun.